I need to take a minute to get what happened today off my chest. Today my 5-year-old was threatened at school by another 5-year-old. Seems harmless right, kids will be kids type of thing. I too thought that…at first.
Apparently during lunch at school, my daughter decided to show her “muscles” to another little boy. That little boy thought she was going to punch him and he threatened to kill her. Then he hit her on the butt. Both kids were pulled in to talk to the principal and the kid that did this was given a punishment.
I was informed of the entire story with a phone call from the principal. I thanked her for calling and I was okay with the actions that were taken. Then I went to pick my kids up after school. The story I got from my daughter was slightly different from the schools. While the majority of what I got was the same, this is the part that upset me. She said that after the incident another little boy she is friends with came up and told her that the offender was telling other kids he was going to bring a gun to school and shoot her. Now, I know this little boy who told her this, I do not think he would make anything up and to my knowledge he wasn’t even there for the incident to begin with.
I of course called the school back with huge concerns. While the school assures me that the proper measures have been taken…AND the child’s parents had been informed and were totally cooperative. I am still worried. One side of my head says that I’m sure everything will be fine…and come on, at my kid’s school? No. The other side screams…that’s what everyone says. It’s happened before to other people. You never know.
What has happened to us as a society that kids are threatening kids at this age? When I was in kindergarten 21 yrs ago this wasn’t an issue. The occasional boy looking up a girls skirt maybe…but this? No. I don’t remember ever hearing about kids bringing guns to school until the event at Columbine. By then I was graduating high school myself.
Now I’m torn. I’m torn between being an overly concerned parent and not acting concerned enough. Obviously I take this very seriously. And the school did give the kid a punishment. However, they were not present for the gun statement. It was second-hand and I’m not sure they even knew about it when I called back after I learned of it. So whether they say something further to the kid or his parents tomorrow I don’t know. Then I have to factor in the error of accuracy that could be involved with 5 and 6 yr olds. Though I highly doubt what was said about the gun was error.
I have no idea what this kids home life is like that caused the incident. It could be horrible or it could be great…no clue. I know virtually nothing about him. Which scares me even more. If I knew his family, or his background I might feel more at ease. But I don’t. I do know tomorrow morning when I drop my kids off is going to be rough for me….when my bubble comes crashing down around me, I have a hard time dealing with it.
My daughter seems fine though. Untraumatized. Who would have thought my first encounter with a child bully would be in my 5 yr olds class. Sometimes this world we live in…sucks.